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Read read then all and submit your own comments Wednesday Jun 23, 2010My former pastor was attempting to seduce me in our counseling sessions. He was the senior pastor of a prominent southern baptist church. Needless to say, I didn't give him what he wanted and I sued him, and the church, and won. Of course, he ran out of town and is now counseling at another church, who hired him in the midst of the lawsuit. Talk about protecting their own! Thanks to him, I left the Christian church and have embraced a more loving and accepting spiritual path.
Monday Mar 01, 2010Chrissy, you're a complete, immoral idiot!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Tuesday Sep 30, 2008Hi, I wanted to thank you for taking the time to respond to my post from early 2007. See, I never asked my for any monetary support nor help around the house from my lover. He just did it while I was at work and I wouldn't know it until I got home. He has a house key. I'm successful financially as a single mom (my daughter by my abusive ex-husband, who does actually pay child support, which I deposit most of into my daughter's account, not mine, for her future). As far as my now 9-year old's lunch money, I work with him one day per week cleaning offices, which I feel is necessary for me to receive any remuneration from him. I feel his wife is entitled to money and compensation, and that if he gives me anything, I work for it. When my car needed to be repaired, he covered the cost of it, but I am working off the expense to pay him back. The agreement between the three of us was not to support me but to support HER (the wife) financially. She is truly a wonderful woman to have gotten to know over the past year and a half. We took lemons and made lemonade. She actually ended up calling ME and asking me not to leave him because she knew he was happy with me and that she didn't want him to lose time with the grandchildren and SHE didn't want to "lose her lifestyle". S Shortly after my posting, she wanted to experiment with me and we became friends as well as lovers. She wanted to get to know me and I wanted to get to know her. We converted into a polyamorous triad. We are all happy and the three of us do fun things together. The three of us have dinner together every other weekend and sometimes a movie. She and I have gone to plays and shopped together... alone. The two of them have their vacations and my daughter and I have our vacations and the three of us go away sometimes too. We are going to Chicago in December together, my share which I am paying for myself. He gives me what doesn't cost a penny and cannot be bought... time and love. Even when passion is not possible due to illness or lack of time, but is mostly daily, just the time and love and cuddling are wonderful. And if he or she should ever leave, that has to be between he and his wife. I've asked him to just follow his heart. And yes, I'm aware that he could possibly do the same to me. That is possible in any relationship, no matter how perfect things may seem to outsiders. We simply keep a routine between the three of us, I get most mornings and lunches, and she gets every night, I get dinner with him every Thursday. Once every six weeks, I get one night. And, of course, if we go away as a triad, he sleeps with her and I sleep in the other bed. And that's okay. We are truly happy and I enjoy doing things for her and helping her around the house and preparing dinner. And she and I enjoy one another's company, even if we aren't lovers anymore. We do hug with true affection and she just needs to be reassured sometimes how beautiful she really is. He may not find her sexy like he does me, but she is a beautiful and sweet woman. I'm glad you've had a beautiful child with this man. I pray that you always have wonderful blessings and hold your child and constantly be reminded how wonderful it is to be a mother to a child created from love.
Friday Aug 15, 2008Of corse you would stay and be patient with him while his wife decides to leave or not. You love him, and you are secretly hoping his wife will leave him just so he will remain with you ONLY. And to SUPPORT YOU. Did you read your own words. You enjoy his support and him taking care of you and your daughter and your home. Of corse you would stay, why would you not. You had no problems being with him since he did everything for you. I too am a "other woman". I had an affair with a man I have known for over 25 years. In the past we had been together for while, and now during the affair this past time for 15 over months. The difference between you and me is that I never wanted anything (monetary or even help with the trash) from my lover. We spent countless hours talking. Talking on the phone before and after work from the minute he left for work and all through the day until he went back home. He would visit every week 1-2x per week. We would spend hours together in passion and also just enjoying each other's company. We went to lunch in public, we went hiking and walking, we went to concerts, and on over nights during business trips. But when it came down to the day to day life. I never asked him to buy me one thing, never a lunch or asked to take the trash out. I never wanted one thing from him that was not from his heart. And that was all we gave one another. I knew he had had numerous affairs, and even overlapped affairs. But I knew what those woman did not. I knew of them, and I knew about him. Every detail, and that is because we were friends and not just lovers. I am shocked at how willing you are to take form this man, and how willing you are to allow him or ASK him to support you. Do you not see that once he leaves his wife, he will not want another one. YOU, a woman who wants things from him just like his wife. He may stay with you, but he will without a doubt find another one to PLAY with. I am sad for you that you feel the need to take so much. But whatever works for him and you is the bottom line. I am simply dumbfounded at the notion that you WANT so much from this man. Could you not find a man to marry you that would want to take the trash out. What about the father of your daughter? By the way, I ended up having a baby with the man I was involved with. And I still have never asked him for one thing. Not one dollar of suuport. Not one visit to the hospital, not one diaper. In fact I begged him to go, that is how little I wanted anything from this man. When I was 5 months pregnant he told his wife about me, she then found out about all the other woman. Low and behold he left me after I begged him for months to go. He left all right. Up until my/our daughter was 2.5 months old. Then he suddenly came back, and asked his wife for a divorce. He and I started to have another affair. Now my daughter is 7 months old and I have again asked him to go. He still has nothing we want. I do NOT want a dime, not anyone to help me with my daughter, NOTHING. And so he is gone again, and I am sure he is out galavanting about with many other woman now that he is soon to be divorced. That is what he is interested in. And me and my daughter are perfectly happy with out him in our lives. I am shocked at how much you take and take and take. You don't want a lover or a good friend. You want a husband and financial support. Sadly you have yet to wake up and see that once his wife does leave him, you will just be the next "wife" for him to take care of and rest assured he will cheat on you and your daughter. Good luck!
Tuesday Jan 23, 2007I find much to be true here. You see, I am The Other Woman. For four years. My lover's wife is a good person, but they were never sexually compatible. He remained faithful for 16 years of the marriage and then he and I met. I do get what many Other Women don't get, time. Every morning for the past few years, he spends about an hour with me before I go to work, helps with housecleaning and takes my garbage with him, brings my lunches to my house daily, takes the time to say goodnight and always makes sure my 8 year old daughter has lunch money. When she was in the hospital with a virus 2 years ago (keeping in mind his wife is a nurse at this hospital and was one floor above) he made sure to visit several times daily, bringing meals for myself and helping me at my house. And he is good to his wife financially. She remains in the marriage for that reason only as she and I have discussed, we have an agreement that he and I will never go out in public unless out of town and that he will go on vacations, etc. with her. They have no children together, although they each have adult children from previous marriages. I am 30 and he is 61. He has been honest with her in that from the very beginning they were marrying so she could have a father for her children and of course, for financial reasons. He has been honest with her when she found out about me. He has admitted his love for me and his strong feelings (even after 4 years, which is almost unheard of in affairs). What I wonder is this. She told him just a week ago she was leaving him. Then the next day said it was too hard to look for an apartment. He has explained to her that he intends fully on continuing his relationship, sexual, emotional and otherwise, with me and that he would continue to support her financially. He also explained that it had to be her decision to terminate the marriage. I am in agreement. What are the odds she will indeed leave? I would support him in patience while she actually decides.
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