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by Kenneth Armstead on 3/17
A husband sometimes may cheat on his wife because of low self-esteem.
Husbands may feel that their spouse may not desire them because of their diminishing masculinity and features.
Husbands that do cheat because of this seek the full potential of a desirable woman that may increase his aura.
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by sueper, replying to Kenneth Armstead on 25-Jan-10 07:08 PM
yeah my husband cheated on me in our 9yr relationship..3yrs married.im more driven to work.he cant keep ajob long enough cuz he didnt like most of them.he has the typical writer's attitude so he needs control over his time and output..he cheated w/ a co-worker who's 8 yrs younger..not really that pretty although he thought she's hot.i think its unfair when a few months before he had an affair he's been crazy suspicious that i was the one having an affair...
been trying to fix the marriage but i just cant take what he did..after all the years of being loyal to him and putting up w/ all his mishaps, he still has the balls to do that..i just dont know where to start understanding him this time :C
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by Brandy on 9/17
Because he is still in love with his high school sweetheart.
So after 16 years of marriage, he started and continued an 18 month affair with her.
After not talking to her for another 18 months, he contacted her again and now has been seeing her for the last 4 months....
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by ex Cheated, replying to Brandy on 11-Oct-08 01:36 PM
I left my husband when I found out he was cheating...
That was extremely painful period in my life, but absolutely worth it. I read great book which helped me a lot to deal with anger and frustration and to begin a new life....
Take a look if you are interested (it is in pdf format):
http://www.searchforbalance.org/Site/Survive%...
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by jrtransam, replying to ex Cheated on 24-Feb-09 05:22 PM
Thanks, I'm glad i wasn't the only one!
After 20 yrs together and 16 yrs marriage, and getting him a good job through my contacts, he cheats on me with a secretary who was cheating on her husband and had done so in the past on the past 3 relationships she had!
He thinks she will never cheat on him!
(What a joke!) She destroyed my family my middle child is on anti-depressants and is in counseling because of all of this and the fact he chose the other women over his own children!
This is now 10 years later and my children (2) are still not talking to their father and the middle one is still in counseling and on meds!
These losers don't realize what they do to others!
and don't care!
I just hope they both get what they deserve from life!!!!
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by Yohany on 5/10
i wanna know how can i stop him from cheating becoz it just started may b two weeks or how to catch him red handed cheating on me?
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by Stilltheone on 3/29
why must husbands cheat the woman he claims to love so much and the most.The woman who helped make him succesful, gave him three beautiful daughters, willing to ful fill all his sexuals desires.
Even aware of his ED problem but works it out doing everything that makes love making enjoyable and beautiful.
But he not only has affairs with married women who are family friends but so many even internet ones.
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by Frank on 2/14
Men love afection too, we have hearts that need to be nurtured too. We want to feel loved, appreciated and wanted.
Abuse goes both ways. Not all men are looking for better sex or more for that matter.
My sex life with my wife could not have been better.
period.
but thats all we had was sex, no feeling of being needed or wanted for anything but sex.21 years and I'm tired of looking for afection from my wife, being pushed away because she doesnt have time for a hug ( stay at home mom) nice huh?
I'm not cheating I'm moving forward...
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by laura, replying to Frank on 25-Jun-10 12:56 AM
Well Frank...
My husband did the same thing as you .Taking part of a selfish act. You say "stay at home mom" like it means nothing.
My husband bailed because he said I wasn't giving him enough time. My daughter is very ill and needs alot of medical attention which by the way he never takes part in .
The house stays clean and dinner is cooked and if I don.t cook I let him know in advance .And when he can have sex I'm there with bells on good or bad. I really get tired of you men saying that we(women) need to take care of you. My husband just like you I bet. come home when your ready and expect us to stop whatever and please you .It doesn.t matter if we had a hard day it's all about you guys. If men could open there darn mouths and say how they feel when there feeling it then maybe things wouldn't get so out of hand.So maybe before anyone cheats and people get hurt open your darn mouths and make sure your love one hears you before you ruin there lives and yours and not to mention the children.
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by pammy, replying to Frank on 17-Jun-06 01:52 AM
You men are all alike.
Always worried about your own needs.
How many times did you think about her needs huh?
Maybe she was tired after cleaning the home, taking care of the children paying bills and running arons and didn't feel like she needed to nurse a grown man. Moving on you sound to me like your moving out and all the better for her I'm sure. Sorry if it's harsh but men make me sick always cryin about what they don't have. My next life I hope I come back as a man so I can sit back and be as useless as most men out there are. As far as abuse goes I take it everyday and no woman or man should have to live like that and I'm sorry if ur wife is like that but think of the generations of woman that took abuse daily and had no way out. By the way a stay at home mom is the hardest job anyone could ever do. I work full time and take care of all the needs at home. Honestly I don't know why God even made Men. I'm bitter my husband just cheated on me. Sorry!
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by A Husband on 1/3
Men are cheating more now for emotional affairs, contrary previous belief that women give sex to have love and men give love to have sex.
As men go into midlife crisis, they are looking for intimacy.
The affairs are more emotionally connected as opposed to physical.
We're seeing those trends.
Men looking for intimacy and women looking for sex.
Strange isn't it!
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by A Husband on 1/3
One reason why a husband is cheating on his wife could very well be career related.
Studies done overseas, revealed that affairs are most likely to happen with men who are unsuccessful in their careers, suffering from sexual disfunction, or faced with problems in their family or personal relationships that they can't handle.
I find that very interesting
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