I find much to be true here. You see, I am The Other Woman.
For four years.
My lover's wife is a good person, but they were never sexually compatible.
He remained faithful for 16 years of the marriage and then he and I met. I do get what many Other Women don't get, time. Every morning for the past few years, he spends about an hour with me before I go to work, helps with housecleaning and takes my garbage with him, brings my lunches to my house daily, takes the time to say goodnight and always makes sure my 8 year old daughter has lunch money.
When she was in the hospital with a virus 2 years ago (keeping in mind his wife is a nurse at this hospital and was one floor above) he made sure to visit several times daily, bringing meals for myself and helping me at my house.
And he is good to his wife financially.
She remains in the marriage for that reason only as she and I have discussed, we have an agreement that he and I will never go out in public unless out of town and that he will go on vacations, etc. with her. They have no children together, although they each have adult children from previous marriages.
I am 30 and he is 61. He has been honest with her in that from the very beginning they were marrying so she could have a father for her children and of course, for financial reasons.
He has been honest with her when she found out about me. He has admitted his love for me and his strong feelings (even after 4 years, which is almost unheard of in affairs).
What I wonder is this. She told him just a week ago she was leaving him. Then the next day said it was too hard to look for an apartment.
He has explained to her that he intends fully on continuing his relationship, sexual, emotional and otherwise, with me and that he would continue to support her financially.
He also explained that it had to be her decision to terminate the marriage.
I am in agreement.
What are the odds she will indeed leave?
I would support him in patience while she actually decides.
