Hi, I wanted to thank you for taking the time to respond to my post from early 2007. See, I never asked my for any monetary support nor help around the house from my lover.
He just did it while I was at work and I wouldn't know it until I got home. He has a house key. I'm successful financially as a single mom (my daughter by my abusive ex-husband, who does actually pay child support, which I deposit most of into my daughter's account, not mine, for her future).
As far as my now 9-year old's lunch money, I work with him one day per week cleaning offices, which I feel is necessary for me to receive any remuneration from him. I feel his wife is entitled to money and compensation, and that if he gives me anything, I work for it. When my car needed to be repaired, he covered the cost of it, but I am working off the expense to pay him back.
The agreement between the three of us was not to support me but to support HER (the wife) financially.
She is truly a wonderful woman to have gotten to know over the past year and a half. We took lemons and made lemonade.
She actually ended up calling ME and asking me not to leave him because she knew he was happy with me and that she didn't want him to lose time with the grandchildren and SHE didn't want to "lose her lifestyle".
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Shortly after my posting, she wanted to experiment with me and we became friends as well as lovers.
She wanted to get to know me and I wanted to get to know her. We converted into a polyamorous triad.
We are all happy and the three of us do fun things together.
The three of us have dinner together every other weekend and sometimes a movie.
She and I have gone to plays and shopped together...
alone.
The two of them have their vacations and my daughter and I have our vacations and the three of us go away sometimes too. We are going to Chicago in December together, my share which I am paying for myself.
He gives me what doesn't cost a penny and cannot be bought...
time and love. Even when passion is not possible due to illness or lack of time, but is mostly daily, just the time and love and cuddling are wonderful.
And if he or she should ever leave, that has to be between he and his wife. I've asked him to just follow his heart.
And yes, I'm aware that he could possibly do the same to me. That is possible in any relationship, no matter how perfect things may seem to outsiders.
We simply keep a routine between the three of us, I get most mornings and lunches, and she gets every night, I get dinner with him every Thursday.
Once every six weeks, I get one night.
And, of course, if we go away as a triad, he sleeps with her and I sleep in the other bed. And that's okay. We are truly happy and I enjoy doing things for her and helping her around the house and preparing dinner.
And she and I enjoy one another's company, even if we aren't lovers anymore.
We do hug with true affection and she just needs to be reassured sometimes how beautiful she really is. He may not find her sexy like he does me, but she is a beautiful and sweet woman.
I'm glad you've had a beautiful child with this man. I pray that you always have wonderful blessings and hold your child and constantly be reminded how wonderful it is to be a mother to a child created from love.
