Of corse you would stay and be patient with him while his wife decides to leave or not. You love him, and you are secretly hoping his wife will leave him just so he will remain with you ONLY. And to SUPPORT YOU. Did you read your own words.
You enjoy his support and him taking care of you and your daughter and your home. Of corse you would stay, why would you not. You had no problems being with him since he did everything for you. I too am a "other woman".
I had an affair with a man I have known for over 25 years.
In the past we had been together for while, and now during the affair this past time for 15 over months.
The difference between you and me is that I never wanted anything (monetary or even help with the trash) from my lover.
We spent countless hours talking.
Talking on the phone before and after work from the minute he left for work and all through the day until he went back home. He would visit every week 1-2x per week. We would spend hours together in passion and also just enjoying each other's company.
We went to lunch in public, we went hiking and walking, we went to concerts, and on over nights during business trips.
But when it came down to the day to day life. I never asked him to buy me one thing, never a lunch or asked to take the trash out. I never wanted one thing from him that was not from his heart.
And that was all we gave one another.
I knew he had had numerous affairs, and even overlapped affairs.
But I knew what those woman did not. I knew of them, and I knew about him. Every detail, and that is because we were friends and not just lovers.
I am shocked at how willing you are to take form this man, and how willing you are to allow him or ASK him to support you. Do you not see that once he leaves his wife, he will not want another one. YOU, a woman who wants things from him just like his wife. He may stay with you, but he will without a doubt find another one to PLAY with. I am sad for you that you feel the need to take so much. But whatever works for him and you is the bottom line. I am simply dumbfounded at the notion that you WANT so much from this man. Could you not find a man to marry you that would want to take the trash out. What about the father of your daughter?
By the way, I ended up having a baby with the man I was involved with. And I still have never asked him for one thing.
Not one dollar of suuport.
Not one visit to the hospital, not one diaper.
In fact I begged him to go, that is how little I wanted anything from this man. When I was 5 months pregnant he told his wife about me, she then found out about all the other woman.
Low and behold he left me after I begged him for months to go. He left all right.
Up until my/our daughter was 2.5 months old. Then he suddenly came back, and asked his wife for a divorce.
He and I started to have another affair.
Now my daughter is 7 months old and I have again asked him to go. He still has nothing we want. I do NOT want a dime, not anyone to help me with my daughter, NOTHING.
And so he is gone again, and I am sure he is out galavanting about with many other woman now that he is soon to be divorced.
That is what he is interested in. And me and my daughter are perfectly happy with out him in our lives.
I am shocked at how much you take and take and take. You don't want a lover or a good friend.
You want a husband and financial support.
Sadly you have yet to wake up and see that once his wife does leave him, you will just be the next "wife" for him to take care of and rest assured he will cheat on you and your daughter.
Good luck!
